On Deaths Door....

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Clutch & Tap

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Sorry for this post lads. My father-in-law isn't very well at the moment, he does well for 85 though. The problem I have got is he has got my wife and me doing everything for him. From arranged hospital appointments to taxi everywhere.

The bloke turned up at 5am this morning panicking because he found a rash, I have just got back from the Dr's who told him to change his washing powder. 4hrs waiting. My wife is on the verge of a nervous-breakdown because of the pressure and I am starting to get very angry, there is never a please or thank-you.

I feel bad for feeling this way, but I'm about ready to explode.
 
Sorry to hear that Clutch. Is there any more relatives/friends that can help share the responsibility a bit?
Sounds like you need to off load mate...so even if its in a forum, it can help relieve the stress a bit
 
I'm in the same boat, elderly rellies that live a stones throw away. They think the doctor is just waiting for them to call. A&E last night getting X-ray as one of them fell over.........the Mrs is frazzled, been an done all their cleaning this morning whilst I went to visit my old mum, and do her shopping. It's harder than work.
 
Don't get wrong, he is a great bloke but over the last few weeks it really is coming across as lazy and selfish. Of course I cannot say anything because of the Mrs, his other children don't want to know and pile it all on my Mrs.

It was 5 am this morning he turned up, then he got my Mrs to phone the Key Drs, then said he wanted us to take him, he still drives and when I said to him I can't because I have my children today he proper got into a mood.

So I changed all my plans, not seen my children today, and he didn't even say thank you after the doctors. And then he asked if I could fetch his prescription later.

I really am ready to f**k**g crack.
 
If he has few bob to be left it might be worth hanging in there, if not have a word :) the more you do for him the more he will take advantage, a terrible shame but he sounds like he's taking the piss, he could live for another ten years :)
 
Pug said:
Can't believe what I'm reading on this thread. He's 85 ffs. Let's hope none of you heartless cnuts get old. [emoji6]
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I agree , especially as most of us f**k*d up plasterers will be fooked with aches and pains come old age .
Its not easy looking after the elderly but we will all need help at some point
 
Clutch & Tap said:
Sorry for this post lads. My father-in-law isn't very well at the moment, he does well for 85 though. The problem I have got is he has got my wife and me doing everything for him. From arranged hospital appointments to taxi everywhere.

The bloke turned up at 5am this morning panicking because he found a rash, I have just got back from the Dr's who told him to change his washing powder. 4hrs waiting. My wife is on the verge of a nervous-breakdown because of the pressure and I am starting to get very angry, there is never a please or thank-you.

I feel bad for feeling this way, but I'm about ready to explode.
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I spent about 18 months doing what you've described and it was as stressful as your having it, stress with the wife was unbearable at times. It's like bad toothache; at the time it's horrible but when it's over you can't remember how the pain actually felt. Vent when you can and where you can, sometimes it's easier with strangers. This place is always open, I've always found it a useful distraction, I've also had lots of private messages from members offering physical comfort but I won't mention names....@keithuk and @arty were particularly persistent. Hang in there bud [emoji106]
 
Pug said:
Can't believe what I'm reading on this thread. He's 85 ffs. Let's hope none of you heartless cnuts get old. [emoji6]
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If I get another 15 years out of this life I'll be well f**k**g impressed with myself [emoji12]

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Clutch & Tap said:
Sorry for this post lads. My father-in-law isn't very well at the moment, he does well for 85 though. The problem I have got is he has got my wife and me doing everything for him. From arranged hospital appointments to taxi everywhere.

The bloke turned up at 5am this morning panicking because he found a rash, I have just got back from the Dr's who told him to change his washing powder. 4hrs waiting. My wife is on the verge of a nervous-breakdown because of the pressure and I am starting to get very angry, there is never a please or thank-you.

I feel bad for feeling this way, but I'm about ready to explode.
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Both my parents are gone mate im 39 tomorrow !!
Just make them happy.
Hopefully your kids will look after you xx
 
Clutch & Tap said:
Sorry for this post lads. My father-in-law isn't very well at the moment, he does well for 85 though. The problem I have got is he has got my wife and me doing everything for him. From arranged hospital appointments to taxi everywhere.

The bloke turned up at 5am this morning panicking because he found a rash, I have just got back from the Dr's who told him to change his washing powder. 4hrs waiting. My wife is on the verge of a nervous-breakdown because of the pressure and I am starting to get very angry, there is never a please or thank-you.

I feel bad for feeling this way, but I'm about ready to explode.
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What would Jesus do? You have your answer
 
Clutch & Tap said:
Don't get wrong, he is a great bloke but over the last few weeks it really is coming across as lazy and selfish. Of course I cannot say anything because of the Mrs, his other children don't want to know and pile it all on my Mrs.

It was 5 am this morning he turned up, then he got my Mrs to phone the Key Drs, then said he wanted us to take him, he still drives and when I said to him I can't because I have my children today he proper got into a mood.

So I changed all my plans, not seen my children today, and he didn't even say thank you after the doctors. And then he asked if I could fetch his prescription later.

I really am ready to f**k**g crack.
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Take the saddle off your back and live your own life.If his mind was gone I'd say fair enough but remember the job we do is a hard one and you need your rest.For me it's my son first,plastering second,and all the other s**t can do what they like.
 
We look after a 96 year old woman, bedbound, waiting to die. Her stepson was her only family and he hasn't visited her for 8 years, he'll be at the funeral when she does die and I'll have the f**k*r by the throat when I meet him. Without us she would have no one. She can be extremely ungrateful, like when we decorated her room bought her a new tv and she said she didn't like any of it wanted her old shite one back . Drives us mad but we continue to do it because it's the right thing to do.
 
On Deaths Door....
 
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