Clutch & Tap
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If it helps Marshy I am a recovering Alcoholic, regular attending AA meets. Been sober a few years now but on medication for my liver for life. Life is so much better in sobriety..
Bored of drinking
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Marshy
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The ones near me are at churches and thats no good for me as cant stand religion. Ive had nothing to drink today but other half discovered my stash and tipped it all away this morning. She was livid and i cant blame her. Right now i dont want anything as annoyed and ashamed of myself. I might try @Olicans advice of hypnotherapy? ? Theres a couplenear me to try?
Don't want to really put a downer on this thread, but thought I'd share this tale.
A good few years ago I had quite a big gang of lads and used to take on goodish jobs, we needed an extra labourer and a chunky lad came recommended. I took him on and he was just the ticket, head down arse up, cheerful never late, worked hard all the day long, and learned quick.
However, he had a drink problem. He would cash all his wage cheque the minute he got it, then go to the pub. He would drink beer and spirits until he passed out.......whilst unconscious, his " mates" would relieve him of any cash he had left, and play pranks on him, like shaving his eyebrows etc. They would then leave him to make his own way home. He was skint until the next payday.
Anyhow, eventually he moved away as his family (such as it was) relocated. I heard recently, that this young man had been killed in a hit and run accident whilst staggering home drunk after yet another binge.
He never sought help. He never saw his cycle of life as a problem. I did nothing to stop him, or offer any help.
Sad.
A good few years ago I had quite a big gang of lads and used to take on goodish jobs, we needed an extra labourer and a chunky lad came recommended. I took him on and he was just the ticket, head down arse up, cheerful never late, worked hard all the day long, and learned quick.
However, he had a drink problem. He would cash all his wage cheque the minute he got it, then go to the pub. He would drink beer and spirits until he passed out.......whilst unconscious, his " mates" would relieve him of any cash he had left, and play pranks on him, like shaving his eyebrows etc. They would then leave him to make his own way home. He was skint until the next payday.
Anyhow, eventually he moved away as his family (such as it was) relocated. I heard recently, that this young man had been killed in a hit and run accident whilst staggering home drunk after yet another binge.
He never sought help. He never saw his cycle of life as a problem. I did nothing to stop him, or offer any help.
Sad.
Squarehead
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I go to meetings in churches, i don't follow a religion and 80% of those in meetings in churches won't either. They get the church at a low price that's all. Spirituality is at the centre of AA yes, but not religion. Allowing spirituality, meditation, mindfulness in will bring you peace. AA is only partly about drink, it's designed to sort your mind out in all areas of life. I'm a completely different person to when I first went in, You will only stay sober by peeling the onion and starting again.
A.plasterer
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Lost 3 mates to drink n drugs and 2 more got put away for murder the ripples that went out and heartache caused by all was enormous , but nothing and nobody could have changed the outcome but themselves .
We all walk our own path and the days of our parents and grandparents of suffering in silence and being a man to only pass misery onto our children (as they weren't equipped emotionally to deal with selves and their demons)have gone !!! There is masses of help out there now and has been for sometime .
Depends how much you value self and loved ones around you , past 16 you have been responsible for self and your choices too.
Addictions are merely symptoms of underlying stuff , we all have stuff some sadder or more brutal than others but getting to understand this and learning to be at peace with it is the only answer.
Amen.
Olican
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Do it Greg, I look forward to it now. Usually take a late booking, last of the day 6.30pm. Come out of there and the feeling is hard to describe, focused refreshed, relaxed. A doctor I know goes every month just keep on top of her anxieties. Your still the exact same person , they just turn off the little switches in our head. I bought my first lot of sessions through Group-on, got 66% off
Gibbo
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You know we are here mateyep im defo going to give it a try. Will keep you posted on how i get on. Cheers chaps
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A.plasterer
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Leave it out ffs windy
Fatarm
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Greg.........as far as I can take from this is...you've got the first bit in this s**t right...yep im defo going to give it a try. Will keep you posted on how i get on. Cheers chaps
You Know you've got a problem.
Some people never see it..I could rhyme off many that have fell into the trap(my dad included) we all have stories of woe and tuff times of people we know who have fell by the wayside...
don't become another...my old man used it as a crutch after my mum died..poor sod.
.I can only imagine it tbh.
Yer bursting yer good lady,family..even yer marvelous mutts
I remember dryaythalon when you done that....look at as two dryaythalons..then three..then four etc......cmon man sort it oot...mate....
And you know all us arsoles on here will back you to the hilt
f**k me that's a longlodashit post
Olican
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Clutch & Tap
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Marshy - No one can tell you how to go about things but if you decide to give AA a try, you may be surprised. No-one there will judge you and you will see others with good sobriety behind them. 5yrs ago I never thought I could live without drink and I just imagined life as s**t without it, I lost everything, the whole lot... I ended up sleeping in my van, having to wash in swimming pools and getting food from a food bank. I was totally un-employable and my family and friends had turned their backs.
Early days are by far the worst and only you can recognise if there is a problem or not. It is an illness, but not just of the body, mind also. At this moment I would urge you to let yourself rest, eat a few good meals and have a few days contemplation to yourself. Then decide on how you want to move forward.
I initially thought the whole AA thing was complete b*ll***s, but I kept going and it kept me sober, I wouldn't change anything today. Life happens on lifes terms, not ours.
You can do this
Early days are by far the worst and only you can recognise if there is a problem or not. It is an illness, but not just of the body, mind also. At this moment I would urge you to let yourself rest, eat a few good meals and have a few days contemplation to yourself. Then decide on how you want to move forward.
I initially thought the whole AA thing was complete b*ll***s, but I kept going and it kept me sober, I wouldn't change anything today. Life happens on lifes terms, not ours.
You can do this
JohnDoe
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£150 last time I went, think it was about 45 mins if I remember correctly.
JohnDoe
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I've been a compulsive gambler for over 10 years. I'm 4 weeks clean now with the help of my missus. So I understand your addictions boys, it's damn hard. I'm so lucky to have been in a position to work my b*ll***s off and earn the coin we do to survive. At one stage I was paying over a thousand pounds a month just on debt minimum paymemts. Aswell as your normal out goings I needed to earn a s**t load just to survive each month. My house went up for sale but the sad thing even selling the house, the equily didn't even cover the debt. So I'd have nothing and still debt.
I kept the house and by getting a so called grip with the odd lapse still. I'm working my way through. When you think of something everyday its soo hard not to do it
I kept the house and by getting a so called grip with the odd lapse still. I'm working my way through. When you think of something everyday its soo hard not to do it
Marshy
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Day 2 for me today, i feel good tho as you guys have helped alot sharing your experiences. Im on a nice easy domestic job and should be home at a decent time. Kids and missus home early on Fridays too. Ive got a busy weekend of work on the house planned so no idle hands to get bored and tempted to go out and buy drink
Squarehead
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Marshy - No one can tell you how to go about things but if you decide to give AA a try, you may be surprised. No-one there will judge you and you will see others with good sobriety behind them. 5yrs ago I never thought I could live without drink and I just imagined life as s**t without it, I lost everything, the whole lot... I ended up sleeping in my van, having to wash in swimming pools and getting food from a food bank. I was totally un-employable and my family and friends had turned their backs.
Early days are by far the worst and only you can recognise if there is a problem or not. It is an illness, but not just of the body, mind also. At this moment I would urge you to let yourself rest, eat a few good meals and have a few days contemplation to yourself. Then decide on how you want to move forward.
I initially thought the whole AA thing was complete b*ll***s, but I kept going and it kept me sober, I wouldn't change anything today. Life happens on lifes terms, not ours.
You can do this
Agree with everything there. It does seem strange but it works. Without following a programme you're a dry drunk and this can be miserable and lonely. AA provides a place where loads of guys in the same boat basically propping each other up, you'll get phone numbers and is important to get a good sponsor. All my life I've rebelled against what people have told me to do or believe, but for once I just went with it even if it did seem like bollox and its worked so far.
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Clutch & Tap
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Wow...! Been pissed, but never that PISSED!
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algeeman
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yep im defo going to give it a try. Will keep you posted on how i get on. Cheers chaps
Find a greedy cuunt to work with get onsite and drive away them demons away on price work......you'l become a workaholic !!!!
And a new man mate.
Ride safe mate....remember your lifesavers, and that everyone else is potentially a dickhead............Brmm,brrmmmI am out on the bike this weekend if I can get my accounts finished in time
Lastlaff
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That's brill mate. My mum was an alcoholic all my life (since a boy), so I've seen it from the other side. Everyone in the house has a part to play to help keep the family functioning in a fun and loving way - when things get tough you know they are there to help and support, especially if you have now set a goal to do this.
We all experience with demons, ours or someone else's, my dad was a gambler, and when his life got difficult used it as a way to blot out his misery. He lost his (our) house.
Marshy
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That's awful mate
Marshy
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Today has been good. Ate a massive tea when I got home and even sorted myself some lamb curry for my supper later. drinking these San pellegrino cans of pop very nice I have to say. I drink so much tea during the day I'd never sleep if I carried on at home from work?? got lots to crack on with at the house weekend but defo taking time out to watch footy Sunday afternoon. making a chilli from scratch tomorrow too I've got the beans soaking already 
keeping busy defo helps keep your mind on other things.
keeping busy defo helps keep your mind on other things.
Gibbo
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I reckon we will beat you sundayToday has been good. Ate a massive tea when I got home and even sorted myself some lamb curry for my supper later. drinking these San pellegrino cans of pop very nice I have to say. I drink so much tea during the day I'd never sleep if I carried on at home from work?? got lots to crack on with at the house weekend but defo taking time out to watch footy Sunday afternoon. making a chilli from scratch tomorrow too I've got the beans soaking already
Marshy
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Oh dear i hope not
