We spoke about having kids ages ago and I said I didn't want one coz after the forth shel want another and she said she wouldn't, she fell pregnant in October last year and we agreed to keep it, then not long after came the miscarriage, she didn't deal with that one very well at all, we had a fall out in February, we decided to give things a go again, then in March she had the second miscarriage which I think has topped all of her emotions.
I don't wish to come across as insensitive with what I'm about to say - I appreciate that it may not be what you want to hear at a difficult time, but I'm going to (respectfully) go ahead and tell you, anyway, because although it may not be what you want to hear right now, I would feel disrespectful for not making you aware of it.
There is a famous book in the fields of nutrition, dental health, and anthropology. It was written by an American dental surgeon by the name of Weston Price, in the early 20th century. He made many anthropological studies of traditional cultures around the globe, seeking to understand what aspects of their diets influenced their dental (and overall) health. The book is called 'Nutrition & Physical Degeneration' (the 'degeneration' aspect relates to the negative effects modern refined foods can have upon dental health).
Anyway, the reason I mention this book is because he made many interesting observations about the cultural practices of these tribes and traditional societies, and one of the things he noted, after talking to these people, is that their traditional wisdom was
very specific about what women in the tribe/society who wished to have children should do, prior to conception. Firstly, it was very frowned-upon for a woman to have children too closely together - they would be shunned to some extent if they didn't follow the 'rule' of leaving at least
2 whole years between giving birth to one child, and conceiving the next. To be clear: this '2 year rule' was not a moral rule. It was specifically because many, many generations had noticed that failure to leave at least 2 years between children tended to increase the likelihood of potential problems with the pregnancy, birth, or eventual health of the child. This wisdom has been lost in our modern day society.
Secondly, these traditional tribes/societies made very specific efforts to ensure would-be mothers ate certain highly-nutritious foods (fish eggs being one example). Some of the nutrients contained in the specific 'conception/pregnancy foods' included iodine, selenium, zinc, vitamin A, vitamin D, etc.
Although they didn't know what the individual nutrients were, multiple generations had realised that these foods greatly increased the likelihood of healthy conception/pregnancy and childbirth.
I hope you're not offended by me mentioning this - perhaps it might be of help in future.
then sit back and enjoy retirement in your 7 bed villa in the Maldives
