Yes, it does cause massive harm, the penny is finally dropping though (on the whole). All I can say to those suffering is, don't listen to the people that bleat on about pulling yourself together, they are speaking out about something they know nothing about. Contempt prior to investigation. Listen to those that say "hey, I've been through that, I can help you mate" go online, forums, call the samaritans, call mind. Book a counsellor, get talking to those in the know. Get in the lifeboat. Nice one Lodan, you speak much sense. Andy, do yourself a favour and get on a forum.